Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way that they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to too much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
Titus 2:3 NIV
It’s summertime, and the living is supposed to be easy. But you, as a WAHM, know that it can get a little complicated when the kids are home from school. My case in point: Today, is the first, official day that my children are off from school. I’m trying to balance my writing assignments while trying to get the kids to finish their chores, not to fight, and to go outside to enjoy the sunshine. There are rewards involved in this–one child has a sleepover to go to and the other has saved up his money to buy a DS–which we’re planning on buying one tonight. Both of these activities won’t happen if the kiddos don’t get along, don’t go outside for at least 15 minutes every hour, and if they don’t get their chores done on time.
Of course, you’ll read in many WAHM blogs, Web sites, and books to get a sitter, work while the kids sleep, ignore the kids, etc. But I take a different path to dealing with kids at home. I do what my Amish and Mennonite neighbors do. Many of them are farmers or small business owners. They incorporate family life with their work. Granted, there are older siblings that can help Mom during the day or occassionally, the young mom will get a mother’s helper. But, overall, these families include their children in their work–they don’t put the kids to the side in order to work. Thus, that’s what I aim to do as a writer. It’s a little bit harder, since writers need solitude, but I believe it can be done with some creativity.
WAHMS–we decided to work out of our homes so we could enjoy motherhood. Embrace it–and embrace your children at the same time. Include them in your work–whether that means that they work on their writing while you interview, report, and edit. Or teach them to stuff envelopes. Maybe they play quietly at your feet (I know; this is a perfect scenario that I dream of every summer). Every WAHM has different tasks that need to be done on a daily basis. Yet, we all need to remember that these times with our children are short-lived–and we’ll have more time when they’re out of the nest–to work full-time with no distractions. For now, however, try to make it through the day, working at home and enjoying the “easy living” with your children while there is still time.